‘The Seven Deadly Sins Of Dating’ Author Paul Falzone, CEO Of The Right One And Together, Offers Advice On Avoiding
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‘The Seven Deadly Sins Of Dating’
Author Paul Falzone, CEO Of The Right One And Together, Offers Advice On Avoiding
DATELINE: HINHGAM, MASS. AND WASHINGTON, D.C., ISSUED OCTOBER 9, 2002… Dating is supposed to be fun. Emphasis on “supposed to be.”
The reality, however, is that every new courtship has a built-in uncertainty and anxiety level and the desire to say and do all the right things can be undermined by nervousness and bad decisions. Dating may not be rocket science, but a wrong move can blow up in your face just the same.
In his book, “A Single’s Guide To Finding The Right One,” Paul A. Falzone, CEO of The Right One and Together, the world’s largest personal introduction service, draws upon his experience to offer expert guidance on successful dating and the quest for a quality relationship. As part of that advice, Falzone offers advice on the common dating mistakes that need to be avoided.
“Compatibility can be elusive, which is all the more reason not to jeopardize a potential relationship by making what I like to call ‘The Seven Deadly Sins Of Dating,” Falzone said. “Many of these errors in judgment are the result of nervousness, insecurity or lack of foresight. Avoiding these pitfalls won’t guarantee a successful date, but they will help ensure a more enjoyable encounter that could lead to something deeper.”
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NOT BEING PUNCTUAL. First impressions are crucial on a date and punctuality and courtesy cannot be understated. Showing up late to a date makes a terrible impression that you might never overcome. Be on time. Make reservations and buy tickets ahead of time. The smoother the logistics of the date go, the better it reflects on you.
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NOT CHOOSING AN ACTIVITY BOTH OF YOU WILL ENJOY. Dragging a new date to the corner bar you hang out at to watch football isn’t likely to impress her and roping the “new guy” into attending a baby shower is a disaster waiting to happen. Likewise, a trip to a steak house won’t gain many brownie points if you discover that your date is a vegan. It may be a nice gesture to get tickets to the flower show she wants to attend, but if you have no real interest in going, your boredom will likely reveal itself and could be offensive. For a date to be successful, both of you need to be having fun and activities should always be planned accordingly.
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DWELLING ON PAST RELATIONSHIPS. Talking about previous partners too early in a new relationship is a “lose-lose” situation. If you look back fondly and wistfully on a past relationship, the message is sent that you are not “over it” and your new romantic interest can feel threatened, jealous and insecure. If you are bitter over a break-up, that hostility can creep into the conversation leading your date to ponder how much you were to blame for the relationship’s demise and whether someday they too will be subjected to similar scorn and bad-mouthing. There will come a time that a discussion of past romantic lives is warranted. But too much information, too soon, will only lead to trouble. Each date should be a hopeful toast to the prospect of a new couple, not an elegy to past lovers.
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TRYING TO ADAPT TO WHAT THE OTHER PERSON IS LOOKING FOR. Don’t feign a knowledge in topics you have no interest in. Rather than “faking” your way through a conversation, steer discussions towards topics you both find stimulating. If he later finds out that you, contrary to what was said, don’t really care about his passion for fly-fishing the revelation will make you seem dishonest. Likewise, treat the other person for who they are, not who you want them to be.
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TALKING TOO MUCH. Babbling on and on about nothing is far worse than any uncomfortable (but always temporary) lull in conversation. There is also no need for a casual date to turn into a therapy session. Your companion doesn’t need to know gratuitous details about your failed relationships, dead-end job, insecurities or mother issues. Showing depth of character is one thing, revealing inner demons that would make Tony Soprano blush is quite another. Conversation should be lively and fun and slowly reveal the real you. Too much information too soon will be a turn-off.
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GETTING INTO AN ARGUMENT. Conversation should be lively, but never argumentative. If politics rears its head over dinner or religion becomes a topic, determine whether the discussion can remain civil and on an intellectual level. If it appears that an argument looms large, steer the chat elsewhere. There is a time and place for debate in any relationship, but a fight over such matters too early in the dating process is a confrontation both of you will want to avoid.
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MOVING TOO FAST. There are many people who fall in love far too easily. Give them even a hint of attraction and compatibility and they start pricing wedding rings. No matter how well a date goes, remember that it is only the first step in what may (or may not be) the road to true love. Keep the relationship casual in the early stages and let it evolve at its own pace and natural flow. No-stop phone calls, obsessive jealousy and overly generous gifts are all behaviors that could send your prospective mate running in the other direction. It takes time to build a quality relationship and, like anything of quality, the job cannot be rushed.
Falzone’s book, “Finding The Right One,” a $14.95 value, is available free of charge for a limited time from any The Right One or Together location in the United States. To find the location nearest you, or to order the book by phone (for a $3 shipping charge), please call (800) 818-DATE. For additional information, visit the company’s informative Web sites at www.togetherdating.com and www.therightone.com .
FINDING LOVE FROM SEA TO SHINING SEA
The merger of The Right One with national franchises of Together created the world's largest introduction service. The alliance is a marriage of convenience for customers -- offering a more consistent product, a greater number of potentially compatible mates and more flexibility in transferring memberships to another geographic region.
Today, with an ambitious plan to open between 12-24 new offices a year, Together and The Right OneŇ have more than 125,000 members – many of whom have their memberships on hold while they take the time to explore a successful relationship. With more than 500 employees, Together and The Right One gross more than $40-million a year in revenue.
The Right One has offices and affiliates located throughout the United States, including:
The Right One has offices and affiliates located throughout the United States, including: California (San Diego); Colorado (Colorado Springs, Denver); Florida (Tampa); Georgia (Atlanta); Hawaii (Honolulu); Illinois (Chicago, Springfield, Peoria, Rockford; Downers Grove and Bloomington); Iowa (Des Moines, Cedar Rapids and Bettendorf); Nebraska (Omaha and Lincoln); New Hampshire (Bedford); New Jersey (Cherry Hill, Hackensack); Massachusetts (Hingham, Chestnut Hill, Shrewsbury and Woburn); Pennsylvania (Philadelphia, Pittsburgh and Monroeville); Rhode Island (Warwick); Wisconsin (Madison, Appleton and Milwaukee); Texas (Dallas, Austin).
North American locations and affiliates of Together are: California (Encino, Irvine and Los Angeles); Florida (Palm Beach); Indiana (Ft. Wayne, Indianapolis, South Bend); Kansas (Wichita and Kansas City); Louisiana (New Orleans); Maryland (Columbia, Frederick); Minnesota (Minneapolis); Nevada (Reno); New Hampshire (Hooksett, Nashua, Portsmouth and Salem); New Jersey (Bridgewater, Clark, Colts Neck and Lawrenceville); Ohio (Cincinnati); Pennsylvania (Mechanicsburg and Doylestown); South Carolina (Greenville); South Dakota (Sioux Falls); Texas (Dallas, San Antonio, Beaumont and Houston) and Virginia (Falls Church).
For more information about The Right One and Together, please call 1 (800) 818-DATE, or visit www.therightone.com and togetherdating.com.
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